"EXPECTATIONS" - THE MOST BITTERING CURSE FOR HUMAN LIFE.

☆"EXPECTATIONS "- an inbuilt feature of human beings....in my perception is the biggest curse for human life....let me justify my thinkings....

☆A HUMBLE REQUEST : PLEASE(🙏 ) GO THROUGH THIS ARTICLE IN A SINGLE GO WITH FULL ENTHUSIASM AND CONCENTRATION.

☆☆☆☆ "FEEL THIS ARTICLE."☆☆☆☆

•DISCLAIMER :  This article is solely based on my personal thinkings, visualizations and somewhat real life experiences.I have tried my best to keep the interests of sentimental values of the readers. This article also contains some of my visualizations based on the miserable conditions, of EMOTIONAL BREAKDOWN of an aspirant who fails to qualify an examination for which he prepared from the last 8-9 YEARS. 

☆ I am very much sorry(🙅‍♂️) from the "CORE OF MY HEART" if you get hurt by reading this....

▪︎Now, let's begin with this awesome article....

》Firtsly, let's have a look over the complete mechanism that, how these expectations strengthen in us? - This all starts with "a one time interaction." Let's take the example of a dream to become an IAS OFFICER in future. We are aware that, if someone wants to achieve such huge goals, then he/she must have a feeling in his/her mindset about that particular goal.... for around last 8-9 years  or so.

☆See, these attachments to which we get attached in our childhood are so strong, that we are unable to get out of them that easily.

☆These desires/goals which we keep hidden in us from this human world, keep on strengthening in us day- by-day very strongly....and you know what!! "the more these strenghtening desires/goals roar inside us..the more calm we become from outside."

☆These  TRUE  desires/goals transform us very effectively.  Our mind becomes more attentive towards the proper plannings and the executions to do something satisfactory for these desires/goals. Yes, it's very obvious that if we are "REALISTIC" in our lives, then surely we will try our best to keep this world very unaware of our proper plannings and executions, which we keep hidden in us. And, i think it's very BIZARRE to BOAST about the things which haven't happened in real.  It's better to keep these inner desires hidden in our "HEART" and "MIND", and have a proper amount of AFFECTION, CARE, RESPECT....etc to our desires/goals.

☆Sometimes these desires/goals strengthen in us to the extent that .... we start giving them preference in every aspect of our life....it's name/profile becomes-

a.) Our PHONE PASSWORD.

b.) Our E-mail id password.

c.) A part of our signature.

d.) The way we start writing our name....etc.

☆OBVIOUSLY in some CREATIVE WAY.

☆But, you know what, keeping a STRONG EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT  to our desires/goals is not wrong....something which is wrong is .... "EXPECTING THE SAME FROM OUR DESIRES/GOALS TOO, AS WE DO FOR IT".

☆ I think we are truely aware of the thing that .... something which happens "UNEXPECTEDLY" no matter, whether it occurs in a POSITIVE WAY or a NEGATIVE WAY, makes us emotional to the extent that TEARS(😥) RUN DOWN OUR CHEEK .... but the beauty of these "INNOCENT TEARS" is that...."these run down very calmly and steadily without making a noise".Even, if we want to stop them forcibly, we find ourselves unable to do so!....I THINK "THESE TEARS ARE A PROOF OF OUR TRUENESS TOWARDS OUR DESIRES/GOALS". - "FEEL IT."

》THINK OVER IT : Assume yourself to be attached STRONGLY to something for the last "8-9 YEARS".You give your 100% in this TUMULTUOUS journey. You keep working on your plans and ideas "REALISTICALLY" with all your "HEART and SOUL", with some of quotes in the  back of your mind like....

》 But, a day comes on which you come to know that all your plans SHATTERED even after PERFECT ACCOMPLISHMENTS,.......can you imagine what kind of bittering situation this would be?

▪︎Let me visualize/imagine this situation....

a.) It will feel to you like, this world is gone out of your hands......you lost it in the search of your own REALISTIC DREAMS.

b.) A kind of dissatisfaction with what a little you have achieved.....to some extent!

c.) You will start SELF DOUBTING yourself....it will feel like i am nothing.....this world is not meant for me.....i am not made for these things.....etc.

d.) A kind of frustation/sadness....will always reside in you.....you will feel like let's plug into NIRVANA(a place of complete peace/solitude/loneliness).

● See, these "STRONG EMOTIONAL BREAKDOWNS" are not that easy to handle. Even, for a moment it feels like....i am a LOOSER, i have lost everything in my life.... Fluently speaking....A PERSON WHOSE BELIEF SYSTEM WAS SO STRONG THAT HE/SHE WAS ABLE TO HANDLE ANY SITUATION ALONE PERFECTLY....FINDS HIMSELF/HERSELF UNABLE TO THINK, EVEN ABOUT A SINGLE SOLUTION OF THIS AMBIGUOUS (UNCERTAIN) SITUATION. These EMOTIONAL BREAKDOWNS are so strong that it may take a week, a month, or even much long to get out of this trauma....cuz u can think on your own that.... 8-9 YEARS is not a small time....which he/she has devoted for the same thing....which hurt his/her own expectations in a SINGLE MOMENT.

▪︎I remember a lyrics which fits perfectly on the mindset you will be having at this bittering moment......

"Isn't it lovely, all alone

HEART made of GLASS, my MIND of STONE

TEAR me to pieces, SKIN to BONE

HELLO WELCOME HOME."

》Now, let's have a look over the POSITIVE APPROACH we must be having to take ourselves out of these bittering trauma or saying more clearly....in order to reduce the effects of these bittering trauma....

1.) Try to find some positives, out of the happenings which are killing you day-by-day.

2.) Believe on the adage which says...."EVERYTHING WHAT HAPPENED, HAPPENED FOR A GOOD REASON, EVERYTHING WHAT IS HAPPENING IS HAPPENING FOR A GOOD REASON AND EVERYTHING WHICH WILL HAPPEN IN FUTURE, WILL ALSO  HAPPEN FOR A GOOD REASON.".....the only requirement being .. be damn true w.r.t your efforts and intent.

3.)Believe on the GOD that he must have planned something AUSPICIOUS for you.... yes I can feel that, these long term emotional attachments develop so strong, that we don't even desire for something else(e.g. relate to the example we had taken in the begining)  ....whether it may be better or not....but i think it's better to accept the REALITY....Let's assume that you don't deserve to be there.....but as readily as you realise the truth of your innocent expectations....leave from there and try to get out of this bittering trauma.....The best way i think to do so is ....KEEP YOURSELF SWAMPED(VERY BUSY) IN YOUR CAREER BUILDING......YOU WILL SURELY REALIZE IN FUTURE THAT IT ALSO HAPPENED FOR A GOOD REASON.

4.) Stop thinking about the happenings (yes! it's very difficult to do so, in the real life....but we have no other way left than this).

5.) Never complain for these happenings....assume you were wrong.... and have a sense of peace.... stay calm and quiet!

6.) Never curse anyone for the pain you suffer due to these kind of happenings .... cuz you were the isolated traveller of this journey and the only witness of this journey is you yourself!....and believe that everything is meant for a good reason....yaa, it's obvious that for a moment it may feel to you like i am not made to suffer this.... but believe the day will surely come when you will realize .... all happened for a better reason!!

THE ONLY CONDITION BEING....BE DAMN TRUTHFUL TO YOURSELF, IF YOUR INTENT IS RIGHT THE RESULTS WILL ALSO BE POSITIVE(😊).

7.)The consequences are uncontrollable.... the thing which is in your control are your efforts only....don't take too much load if the consequences does not meet your expectations...cuz, everything is not meant to be achieved by the perfect efforts with right intent......but surely trueness gives you positive vibes to carry on....

8.)Lastly, treat these bittering happenings which "PIERCED YOUR HEART AND SOUL" as a SOURCE OF INNER MOTIVATION, and let it be a reason for you to SUCCEED in your life.....

•See, failures are a part of success.....so, you can take it as your own failure.....and let the magic begin for a Massive success.....

☆☆☆☆ "NEVER EXPECT TOO MUCH" FROM THIS WORLD.... ONLY YOU ARE THE HERO OF YOUR LIFE....ONLY YOU CAN PROTECT YOUR FUTURE....NO ONE IN THIS BRUTAL WORLD IS GONNA PUSH YOU TO WORK HARD.....ONLY YOU CAN BRING THE CHANGE......"YOU ARE THE BEST."☆☆☆☆.

☆☆ "HAVE PATIENCE".

☆☆"BE REALISTIC".

▪︎So, hereby i end this tiny article....

☆I HOPE, YOU FELT THIS ARTICLE WITH ALL YOUR HEART AND SOUL.

☆LET ME KNOW IN THE COMMENT SECTION, IF, YOU WERE YOU ABLE TO ATTACH YOURSELF TO IT OR NOT.

》SUGGESTIONS AND CRITICISMS ARE ALWAYS WELCOMED. 

《☆》SIGNING OFF: ARPIT PANDEY .