Lessons of 2022

December might be just another month on the calendar, but perhaps this is the only time we take a pause from our hurried lives and reflect on the year gone by. This contemplation gives us a chance to relive the happy moments, feel proud about our accomplishments, regret the opportunities not taken and, of course, plan for the future.

For me, 2022 has been a year of mixed significance— I completed my 1st year in computer science and engineering at Nit Jamshedpur, crossed the barrier of 200 poems in an year, made some good friends and continued well with the people I had for so long. This year had not been upto the mark, I had thought in it's start.  A bit health issues and some inner ongoings tortured to some extent. But, as everything has a purpose.....they have too.... that's what i believe. 

Nothing teaches us like experience and this year has taught me a lot. I still struggle to imbibe entirely some of the learnings I mention here. But I believe it’s a good idea to note them down and aspire to follow them. 

The following are part lessons, part self-reflections, and part observations. It’s a 2022 collection of my notes-to-self. 

Here goes: 

1. Actions >>Vibes>>Words....

Whenever you are with someone....have a look at their actions. Vibes come second and the words come last. Actions speak....vibes make you feel and words are just a conventional way.

2. Journaling is a great way to get a third person perspective about your day to day life. Life flows way too fast sometimes. Don't become an aimless log in a flowing stream. Every once in a while, take a break, come on to the shore and observe the stream. Colour the diary of your life.

3. "Patience and Gratitude" are the most vital essences of humn life. When you are at the verge of pain, be patient and when you are in a comfortable situation....please pay your gratitude to the GOD, people who make you happy and every sort of reason behind your peace.

4. There is no ideal success, college life or job. Each of them have their own pros and cons. Your job is to be content with your decisions and results. Learn to be happy.

5. Don't multitask, please! Take one task at a time. Complete it to the fullest and then move on to the next.

6. Perfectionism is hazardous. Please, avoid it. Try to be good at something....in a long term. Effortlessly you will feel like a perfect one.

7. Self confidence comes from repetitive actions. So, focus on your inputs consistently.....the success will embrace you.

8. Don't take anyone or anything for granted. Make them feel wanted not used. Else, no matter how good they are at their heart.....God will take them away from you. Because, for them....God cares. 

9. Don't flirt with a heart you can't belong to. A simple looking line with deep meanings.

10. Act rather than wishing. It will ensure that you are not getting depressed. You will get to satisfaction this way.

11. Having even a good true friend is enough. Choose your circle wisely and keep it as small as you can. They influence you to the greatest extent.

12. Don't let the "Fear of Failure" or "Negativity"  over rule you. These are the most hazardous pills you will ever taste.

13. Listen to everyone but do what your inner intuition says that it's right for you. There is no one, who knows you better than the person you see, when you look into the mirror.

14. Journey matters more than the destination. Enjoy it. Because, the day you will be standing at your destination.... you will cherish the memories of this journey only. This is the  peace and a feeling of content that your hard work paid off.

15.Always follow your gut feeling and inner intuition : whether it's a "something is going wrong" feeling or "I can do this" feeling.

16. Pain of discipline is better than the pain of regret. Somewhere i had read that.... "Pain of regret makes a person hollow from inside".

17. If you really love someone, make them felt, loved and valued. Express as oftenly as you can. Who knows, your words of  love may turn out to be an unpaid therapist in their tough ongoings. Loving someone and making them feel loved are two different shores of an ocean. 

18. Don't cry is the worst thing you can tell someone who is hurting. Make, let it all out a habit. Sometimes, shedding tears will give the serene.....nothing else can. It's ok.

19. It's ok to not be okay sometimes. But, it's not ok to stay that way. You have to make sure that even in a tough season, you are gonna give your level best to be okay, ok?

20. Patience is the softest form of true love. Whether it be a person or a dream....if you love them/it, you will wait and try until the last ray of hope is lit. No distractions will cross your ardent way.... it's just them/that or nothing else. Don't settle for less than someone/something   who/which can ecstasize your heart and soul to the fullest.

21. Trueness and loyalty are your own choices. These two depend on....how passionate you are about someone or something. 

22. Spend time with your loved ones oftenly. It boosts you and keeps your bonds strong. We all have time for what really  matters to us. Nobody is as swamped(too busy). 

23. Don't promise when you are too happy. Many a times you will fail to accomplish them.

24. Empathy and love are two different things. Someone being nice to you doesn't mean that they love you. It can be because they are being raised good by their mother/family.

25. You never fall in love. Rather, you rise being in love. It makes you meet the real you.....the most creative version of you. A version of you....you were totally unaware of. It's a phase which transforms you to your level best. You become the most perfect version of you ...because you push your limits to the extent, you can. You try to become the perfect person....who can give the most perfect and a wholesome love. 

26. Depression isn't a choice, asking for help is. Don't hesitate to ask for help whenever you need. 

27. Life is really short and tomorrow is a half truth. Live in the present and make the best out of it.

28. A favourite line that I keep repeating to myself : Remember, the best days are still, yet to come. Have faith and smile..🤞😊..

How was your 2022? What are your takeaways? Do let me know.

✓ Thanks for holding your patience.

✓Suggestions and criticisms are always welcomed.

 

 •Signing Off :- ARPIT.